GET OVER THE "D"

Verse of the Day

But if any place[or person] refuses to welcome you or listen to you, shake its dust from your feet as you leave to show that you have abandoned those people to their fate.
-Mark 6:11 (New Living Translation)

Affirmation/Quote of the Day

A Woman Should
By: Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou: Every woman should…..

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she’s content to leave behind….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …..
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
a feeling of control over her destiny.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to fall in love without losing herself.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but its over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table…
or a charming inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…


So ladies I have spent the first couple of weeks blogging about ways we as women can improve ourselves. I have intentionally shied away from the juicier subjects like sex, men, baby mama (or daddy) drama, etc.

My strategy was to help women develop themselves so that when we got ready to deal with the "other stuff" we were stronger personally and better equipped to make healthy decisions about the unhealthy junk in our lives.

Today's blog is dedicated to every woman who has ever been stuck (or who is currently stuck) on a man that she shouldn't have been.

I have FOUR WORDS FOR YOU: "Get OVER the "D"

Now don't go gettin all sadidity on me YOU KNOW what the "D" is and you know the power it can have over you if you are not careful. The bible gives us a clear definition on what true love is. If you relationship does not embody those things, doesn't not resemble, mirror or even have an essence of those characteristics.....THEN IT IS NOT LOVE....in the sense that GOD intended it to be.

What does that mean? It's time for your to get over the "D" and move on so that God can bless you with the kind of love he intended for you.

Just so we are clear on the definition of Love:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. I Corinthians 13:4-7

Just so we are clear Love is not:

-His ability to hit "the spot" (no matter how many times he makes you feel good)
-The BMW 750 he's letting you drive
-Paying your light bill or your rent
-Lying (because he loves you too much to tell the truth)
-Making irresponsible choices that put your health, livelihood, or well-being in jeopardy
-Cheating
-Putting his hands on you
-Constantly placing you at the bottom of his list of priorities
-Being unsupportive of your goals, ambitions, and dreams (especially when they are not in line with his)
-can not be perfected by an unsaved man!

Now don't get me wrong YOU are not perfect so please don't look for a perfect man!! HE DOESN'T EXIST! Everybody falls short and makes mistakes and in my opinion every person is entitled to 1 "GET OUT OF JAIL FREE"CARD. In life "ish" happens. People cheat, lie, steal, deceive and that doesn't mean that they don't truly love you.

A repetitive pattern of unloving conduct, however, is a PROBLEM. An unwillingness to compromise, improve, and/ or consider the needs, wants, desires, and pleasures of your mate is a sign that "Love doesn't live here anymore!" Heed the warnings!

Just so you know. There can be no mutual love between YOU and
-some one's husband
(HELLO he is married to her. He publicly professed his love for her in front of family, friends, and GOD yet he is willing to cheat with you...... If he did that to her, How do you think he's apt to treat you.)
-someone else's man
(Again Karma is a bitch if he is choosing her in public and you behind closed the doors, that's an issue. Men are proud creatures! If he is not proud of you, you better reflect on that choice.)

Men do what they want to do so if they want to leave, their woman, kids, mama, homeboys, or nobody else can stop them from leaving where they are and coming to you.


LISTEN TO YOUR GUT!!!! If it doesn't feel right and your bones....let it GO!!!!!!
Let go of all the excuses:
-He pays my bills
-He's soooooo Fine
-He's irresistible
-I'm scared
-I don't like to sleep alone
-He loves my kids'
-The "D" is sooo Good

SOOOOOOOOO What!

God will keep you. Protect you. Provide you. Hold you. Console you.

Don't let Mr. "D" stand in the way of Mr. "Right".

Let Go of the "D". Move on and Move Up!!!

And that's MYtooSENSE!!!

TTFN